Often times people think in terms of win-lose. Where one party misses out while the other one clearly dominates in some way. Why?
No, I'm not talking about the board game. I'm not talking about climbing Mount Everest. I'm not asking you to go into the woods buck naked. Everything in life has some element of risk.
What I'm saying is do not remain in a state of helplessness and neediness. If you want to navigate the harsh climates of reality you will have to eventually learn how to function on your own.
Let's get real, you suck. Don't get me wrong, I'm not insulting you. I suck at stuff too. I don't claim to be a good cook or the best football player. If you aren't then you shouldn't either. Be honest so you can improve. Do better.
We are often so scared to love something because we fear being judged by how others perceive that passion. "your job is boring, only losers like anime, hip-hop is not for people like you."
They want to shake up your core because they are unhappy with theirs. They revel in the joy that they have some minute power over you because they lack power in their own lives.
So many people have weak intent because they are afraid to express their true selves. They always think "what if I am not cool enough, what if she doesn't like a short guy, what if he doesn't like that I'm introverted."